You have a really wonderful child

[said]

You are so proud of your well mannered, very intelligent child - and you want to do everything you can for him/her.

Perhaps a very expensive personal phone/ the most expensive games consul/ the very latest designer bike - so they can show all their friends how lucky they are.

Is that a good idea or not?

[salus.populi]

You are so proud of your well mannered, very intelligent child - and you want to do everything you can for him/her.

Perhaps a very expensive personal phone/ the most expensive games consul/ the very latest designer bike - so they can show all their friends how lucky they are.

Is that a good idea or not?

All depends on their age and how mature and responsible they are.
And the risk of theft when they're out and about must be taken into consideration. For their own safety the most expensive phones and bikes are not the best idea. There's plenty more affordable phones and bikes that won't leave them open to ridicule from their peers but are still expensive enough to be considered cool and can be covered with "out of home" cover on home contents insurance for very little cost.

Well mannered and very intelligent children will understand this.

[Hamble]

They got to be wonderful children without expensive rewards.

Explaining the concept of 'paying for the name' helps particularly the unfairness that only the haves can afford.

What is more rewarding is a child understanding the power of being able to afford an item and being happy with a similar/un named cheaper brand.

If the child saves up to buy that is different learning curve.

Plus sadly the more expensive the toy the more liability and target out of the house.

[greenmachine]

From what Iv seen of kids the more they have the more they want. I remember 30 years ago one xmas day my first born had more toys off aunts uncles grand parents and wifey and me than you could shake a stick at. Id nipped to the off licence as my parents were coming for dinner and bought a box full of booze. Returned home. Put box contents on worktop and dropped box on the floor. My lad ignored the toys and climbed in the box.

[Hamble]

From what Iv seen of kids the more they have the more they want. I remember 30 years ago one xmas day my first born had more toys off aunts uncles grand parents and wifey and me than you could shake a stick at. Id nipped to the off licence as my parents were coming for dinner and bought a box full of booze. Returned home. Put box contents on worktop and dropped box on the floor. My lad ignored the toys and climbed in the box.

I really wanted a 'Wendy House' as a child in the days before these things came off a conveyer belt or flat pack.

My parents made me one out of cardboard with closing windows and door.
I thought it was amazing.

[jamyramy]

well sadly due to circumstances,abusive and demeaning father and his ails,lost childhood and its fallouts.have unfortunatly not been blessed by all you others joys of parenthood,yet observe ,envy ,a blessed unions family bubble of joy.but yet feel the best gift you can give your offspring ,is appreciation respect honor and integrity,of self and more so others before gain,giving and sharing more than you take..

[Ceam]

You are so proud of your well mannered, very intelligent child - and you want to do everything you can for him/her.

Perhaps a very expensive personal phone/ the most expensive games consul/ the very latest designer bike - so they can show all their friends how lucky they are.

Is that a good idea or not?

In my opinion, No.

2 of those items make them a target to be mugged, and I already have every gadget on the planet worth having ;-) Except for the gadgets of late 2020 as they are like hens teeth to find.

I've explained the reasoning behind this to my children.

Moral of the story... Don't make your child a target.

[MICK/GILLY]

Raise your kids and spoil your grandchildren or spoil your kids and raise your grandchildren .

[said]

well sadly due to circumstances,abusive and demeaning father and his ails,lost childhood and its fallouts.have unfortunatly not been blessed by all you others joys of parenthood,yet observe ,envy ,a blessed unions family bubble of joy.but yet feel the best gift you can give your offspring ,is appreciation respect honor and integrity,of self and more so others before gain,giving and sharing more than you take..

Ah Bless, Jamy! Out of the fog, the sun shines.

[said]

They got to be wonderful children without expensive rewards.

Explaining the concept of 'paying for the name' helps particularly the unfairness that only the haves can afford.

What is more rewarding is a child understanding the power of being able to afford an item and being happy with a similar/un named cheaper brand.

If the child saves up to buy that is different learning curve.

Plus sadly the more expensive the toy the more liability and target out of the house.

Very wise. The topic was base on a report in the Liverpool Echo, where a young lad was threatened with a knife and had his £2500 bike stolen along with an expensive phone. I agree that children should be taught the value of everything and understand that although a Porche may look sleek and expensive - it has no more practical use than an old banger that will get you from A to B. Young children do not recognise 'expensive' they look for that which gives them the most 'fun' As Greenmachine points out - a cardboard box, or as you said previously a box made into a Wendy house where they can let their imagination run free. Older children can actually feel embarrassed by being given 'flashy' and expensive items because then they are not 'equal' to their friends.

[Lamparilla]

I think I was about 8 years old when I realised that most things aren't just 'good' or 'bad'.